October 8, 2009

fresh

when the person you love has cancer, your world tilts on its axis. you can run through the stages of grief in the twinkling of an eye and air feels like it's sucked out of your lungs. then you have to start fresh.

you take stock and figure out how to support them in their fight. don't back away - cancer is not contagious. be there for them. hold their hand. that is the one single piece of advice that i can give you. cancer is not always a death sentence - not any more. as dylan thomas said 'rage'. fight it with tooth and nail.

i came from fighting stock baby and i can put up my dukes with the best of 'dem. this is a lesson that comes in with any hardship. hope you develop your fighting skills too.
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part of christina's pink october challenge

23 comments:

  1. I always have my boxing gloves close by !!!

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  2. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4trn2lJxl00

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  3. So true, I've been down that road with a wonderful friend. Glad to say that she is now 6.5 years out as a survivor. Best wishes to you and yours.

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  4. Great post! I have no doubts you are a born fighter, lol :)

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  5. char, what a powerful post, rage yes! You are a fighter, I think sometimes people don't know what to say or do, I agree with you be there, just be there!

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  6. calm yet bright these flowers are...such a reminder!

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  7. Got my fighting skills from my sweet sister, and yes - cancer is not a death sentence. No matter what our situation is, we need to remember to live and love in the moment and hug and laugh often. I know we don't know each other, but I'm sending hugs your way.

    Zuzu

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  8. I, too am a breast cancer survivor, I am 9 years out, almost 10 now...I never had to do the heavy stuff like chemo and radiation, but I lost both breasts to the hateful disease, and I have to fight the lymphedema, which is sometimes a side effect.
    I am so sorry...hang on!!!!

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  9. sending a little extra gusto your way.

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  10. Go, fight, win.....I always say! I'll put in a punch for you too!

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  11. My mother used to tell me that when I feel afraid of something, to get mad at it instead. To get indignant. We have so much strength this way, we're all pulling with you.

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  12. i am loving this post! it's filled with awesome spunk!! you rock!

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  13. Your loved ones are lucky to have you on their side.

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  14. I would want you on my side if that day ever comes... you are a fighter~ in a good way!

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  15. Your flowers are a wonderful reminder that though you need boxing gloves on some days, you also need to create the beauty. Prayers your way.

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  16. beautiful...sending some pink strength your way
    http://urbaniche.blogspot.com/2009/10/pink-inked.html

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  17. Beautiful Char...you have such courage and inspire us all!

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  18. I am there holding my sister's hand...she has all the strength...

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  19. You are beautiful in every way. Your words, your images. Your womanhood.
    Brenda

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  20. Here's to winning the fight. Once and for all.

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